I will start by saying we were incredibly blessed to join Jin and Kazuko for their wedding in Yokohama, Japan. We were the only ones that flew from the U.S. (probably because I kinda self invited us "Oh we are coming!") Everyone was incredibly gracious to us and though we never knew what they were saying, we could tell that they were very grateful we had traveled so far to celebrate with them all.
We started the morning by making the trek over from our current hotel to the beautiful and mightily tall, Landmark Tower. This tower is something like 971 ft tall and has a hotel, huge mall, restaurants, businesses etc. all inside it. When we checked into our hotel room we received (as Jin had excitedly warned us about) a giant metal old school key to get into our room. We ran into Jin's sister, Lisa in the hallway and she ushered us into the "family" room. And the bowing starts. I had obviously met Jin's parents before but even still, with Zach and I there we were introduced to grandparents, aunts, uncles, Kazuko's father, friends and more. Each time we went through the awkward for us but enjoyable process of trying to figure out when to stop bowing. Also I realized that we have ingrained in us the desire to shake hands with new folks we meet so this always let to confusion. Bow, bow, bow, bow.
After hanging out with the fam for awhile and drinking some cherry blossom tea, we were finally kicked out to join the "friend" room. We hung out here with two of Jin's friends from Japanese school in San Jose, CA (who both now live in Japan). They, along with Lisa, would be our occasional translators. They definitely cam in handy when one of the women who works for the hotel thought my gigantic camera bag was a piece of luggage and was suggesting we take it to our room (I think that was roughly what was said).
Finally we knew the wedding was getting close to starting when from the friend room we could hear Jin's loud distinctive laugh out in the hallway. We all walked out and were led into a Shinto Shrine (I can describe it like this because I don't know better and probably no one else reading this does either). Jin and Kazuko were dressed in traditional wedding kimonos sitting in the middle of the room while the rest of us sat around the edges of the room. Zach described the ceremony as "very Catholic" though much shorter. Stand up, sit down. The room was incredibly quiet and we got some more bowing practice. At the end we took a shot of sake out of a small bowl which Zach expected to be "holy water."
From here we all went up to the 68th floor of this huge tower to the reception. This took place in a beautiful French restaurant with incredible views. I finally saw Mt. Fuji in the distant (with one failed trip before of never seeing it). You could also see Tokyo and all of Yokohama. Amazing! And thus began the reception. I must admit I was quite scared for Jin's music choices (which were songs from video games, like Mario's underwater theme song) but in the beautiful place, with the beautiful view, and such a wonderful celebration, it all seemed to make sense. The emcee explained this and that (all in Japanese) even giving a play by play sports run down on Jin and Kazuko, heights, weights, background etc (I'm not sure about the weight but this is what Lisa told me, so I will believe her) Apparently he was very funny though we wouldn't know. We just went with the flow.
About now I made my first appearance on the wedding video. Usually I avoid these. If I have been to your wedding you probably don't have me on it, though I may love you, this is really not my thing. But, when you can't really communicate, and when you really only know how to say "yes" in another language and not "no" you tend to get roped into things you wouldn't usually do. So Zach and I each gave a little congrats on the video and thought that was the end of that. The reception continued and the food was amazing. Of course the menu explaining what to expect was in Japanese and French, if only it had been Spanish! We enjoyed carpaccio, wonderful raw fish, crab and asparagus, prime rib, and plenty of dessert. Zach and I both agree probably the fanciest wedding meal we've had.
Throughout the meal we also discovered an apparent Japanese tradition, both sides of the family love to pour you alcohol. They are thankful you are there and this gesture is a sign (all that I gather of course) that they are glad to share with you. So, first Kazuko's grandfather came over to fill us up on beer. Then it was her Dad with wine I believe. Then it was Jin's sister Lisa with more "overflowing" beer. Then it was Jin's parents. And at some point I had accumulated 5 different types of drinks in front of my plate. I had a gin & tonic (which was my own fault since I ordered it before this all started), white wine, red wine, beer, and champagne. Eventually I had to come up with a game plan to slowly work through these drinks, starting with the smallest amounts first and working back till I eventually finished my first drink, the gin & tonic.
After most of the speeches had ended, Jin stood up to give his. I must set this up with we have been listening to all Japanese for a couple hours now with only a few translations slipped in here and there. So Jin continues to speak in Japanese giving his speech. And just as it as clearly nearing the end ... Jin looks over at us and says in loud clear English "And our Amazing Fucking Friends!" Zach and I nearly fell out our seats. What did he just say!? In front of his parents, her parents, grandparents, and more! Just as Jin, he said what he wanted to say, and it was hilarious.
After this the eating continued and Zach slipped out to hit up the restroom. While he was gone, the emcee came over to me and handed me a microphone trying to prompt me to give a speech. "Stand up" he said. So, though I had never given a speech at anyone's wedding, I stood up, and spoke English congratulating Jin and Kazuko and thanking them for sharing this event with us. I survived. When Zach returned, I gave him the "death" look of "I can't believe you left me for that." Lucky for me, fate was on my side and about 10 minutes later the emcee returned to make Zach stand up and speak as well. We also both made 2nd appearances on the video (not sure how the video guy forgot the English speakers had already spoken).
The reception ended with Jin and Kazuko dancing together. (Oh yea, they had changed into a snazzy white pimp suit, and a beautiful white wedding dress somewhere during the reception). The reception ended on a hilarious note with Kazuko and her dad dancing to "Let It Be" by the Beatles. She was beautiful. The hilariousness comes in the fact that her dad was obviously confused on quite how to dance with such a big dress and that during the dance he was flashing peace signs to everyone. Good times!
We met up with Jin and Kazuko and friends for after reception beers and settled into our amazing hotel room for our last night of sleep in Japan. What a great experience!!